End‑of‑Life Playlists: Planning Music for Your Own Memorial

Music has the extraordinary ability to capture emotion in ways words cannot. It can comfort, inspire, and connect — often more powerfully than any speech or ritual. That’s why more people today are choosing to plan their own “end-of-life playlists”: curated collections of songs that tell the story of their lives and provide comfort to loved ones long after they’re gone.

Choosing the soundtrack for your memorial is not about morbidity — it’s about legacy. It’s about sharing who you are, what you love, and what you want others to feel when they think of you. A thoughtfully created playlist can bring tears, smiles, laughter, and togetherness in one of life’s most sacred moments: saying goodbye.

Here’s how to plan music that celebrates your life authentically — a playlist that plays it forward.

Why Music Belongs in Your Memorial Planning

Every life has a rhythm — moments of joy, struggle, love, and change that weave together like melodies in a song. Including music in your end-of-life planning gives those moments a voice.

For those attending your memorial, your playlist becomes a bridge between grief and gratitude. The right song can spark memories, tell stories, and provide emotional release. It can help friends and family not just remember you, but feel you — your humor, your hope, your favorite drives, your quiet mornings, your celebrations.

End-of-life playlists also give you a sense of agency and creativity in how you’ll be remembered. Instead of leaving those choices to someone else, you can craft the tone of your farewell yourself — gentle and reflective, joyful and spirited, or a little bit of both.

Step 1: Reflect on the Music That Defined You

Start by thinking about the songs that have marked meaningful chapters in your life. What music was playing during your happiest moments, or helped you through your hardest ones? What songs make you feel most you?

To begin, divide your life into a few emotional categories:

• Songs of Joy: Music that represents love, friendship, celebration, or adventure.

• Songs of Strength: Tracks that carried you through loss, change, or growth.

• Songs of Meaning: Lyrics or melodies that capture your beliefs, values, or spirituality.

• Songs of Memory: Family favorites, inside jokes, or music that will make others smile in remembrance.

You might also include songs that reflect your humor or quirks — the ones people wouldn’t expect but would instantly make them laugh (“of course they picked that song!”).

Write these ideas down, without worrying about order just yet. The goal is to create a musical reflection of your humanity — full of contrasts and character, just like life itself.

Step 2: Decide the Tone of Your Farewell

Every memorial feels different. Some are solemn and contemplative, while others are light-hearted celebrations of life. Your playlist should help guide that emotional tone.

Ask yourself:

• How do I want people to feel at my service?

• Should it feel like a farewell, a celebration, or a reflection?

• Do I want people to cry, laugh, dance, or all three?

Some people design multiple segments — soft, instrumental music for the ceremony itself, then upbeat songs for a reception or post-service gathering. For instance:

• Opening songs: Gentle, emotional pieces to welcome guests and set the mood.

• Reflection songs: Tracks played during eulogies, photo slideshows, or candle lighting.

• Closing songs: Uplifting or meaningful tunes to send people out with hope.

• Reception playlist: Favorite feel-good songs to bring comfort, connection, and maybe a few smiles.

Think of your playlist as a narrative — a musical story that takes loved ones on a journey from sorrow to gratitude.

Step 3: Blend Genres and Generations

A beautiful memorial playlist often bridges generations, connecting your history with the people who’ll remember you.

Mix in songs that speak to your time — the music you grew up with — alongside pieces that have timeless resonance. Maybe it’s a Beatles track from your youth, a Bob Marley song that carried you through college, and a modern ballad your children introduced you to.

Don’t be afraid to include instrumental or classical pieces either. A soft piano track or acoustic guitar interlude can create space for reflection between songs with lyrics.

The diversity of your playlist will mirror the diversity of your experiences. And if there’s one thing that binds us all, it’s how music can transcend age, taste, and time.

Step 4: Involve Loved Ones in the Process

While this is your playlist, creating it doesn’t have to be a solitary act. In fact, inviting others to help can make it more meaningful for everyone involved.

You could:

• Ask family and friends what songs remind them of you.

• Share early drafts of your playlist and get feedback.

• Add notes explaining why you chose certain songs — these become precious messages in themselves.

For instance, you might note:

“Play this song because we used to dance to it in the kitchen.”
“This one always made me think of summer drives with Dad.”
“End with this track — I want everyone to leave smiling.”

These annotations turn your playlist into something even more intimate — part memorial, part love letter.

Step 5: Choose the Right Platform

Once you’ve gathered your songs, choose a platform that makes sharing easy and lasting.

• Spotify or Apple Music: You can create public playlists titled “Celebrating [Name]” and include descriptions. These can be shared before or after the memorial.

• YouTube: Ideal for playlists with video tributes or performances.

• SoundCloud: Great for mixing recorded messages or spoken word reflections between songs.

• USB or physical copies: For those who prefer something tangible, you can gift a small USB drive or CD with the playlist to family members as a keepsake.

If you work with a funeral home or event planner, you can provide a link or copy for use during the service — ensuring your music is heard just as you intend.

Step 6: Include Songs of Comfort and Continuity

Consider ending your playlist with a song that embodies peace, closure, or hope — something that lets others feel your presence even after the final note.

Some timeless ideas:

• “Somewhere Over the Rainbow” by Israel Kamakawiwoʻole

• “What a Wonderful World” by Louis Armstrong

• “Landslide” by Fleetwood Mac

• “Hallelujah” by k.d. lang or Jeff Buckley

• “Here Comes the Sun” by The Beatles

• “You’ve Got a Friend” by James Taylor

These songs carry universal messages of comfort — perfect for leaving listeners with warmth and reflection.

If faith or spirituality is meaningful to you, include hymns or instrumental versions that resonate with your beliefs. Even if your playlist is secular, the final songs can still embody themes of transcendence, renewal, or gratitude.

Step 7: Document and Share It

Once your playlist is complete, make sure it’s part of your end-of-life planning documents — either in a will, memorial plan, or shared digital note. Leave instructions on how and when you’d like it played.

You might even include a short message with your final list:

“If you’re hearing this music, I hope it brings you peace. I hope it reminds you of laughter, love, and the moments that mattered most.”

Sharing the playlist link with family and close friends in advance ensures they’ll have access to it — not just for your memorial, but for years afterward, whenever they want to feel close to you.

The Power of Music in Legacy

Planning your end-of-life playlist is a profound act of love. It’s not just about the songs you leave behind, but the emotions and stories they carry forward. Long after your memorial, your playlist will remain — a gift that helps others remember your essence with every listen.

Music becomes memory in motion — something living, healing, and infinitely replayable.

As one listener presses “play,” they’ll hear not only your favorite songs but your life’s rhythm: your humor, resilience, and the melody of your heart.

Bringing It All Together

At Oaktree Memorials, we believe remembrance should be personal, creative, and deeply human. Whether it’s through music, a handcrafted urn, or a piece of memorial jewelry, each choice you make helps shape your legacy.

When planning your playlist, consider pairing it with a physical keepsake — like a custom engraved urn, a photo necklace, or a memorial candle that burns as your music plays. Together, these symbols of sound and light create a complete sensory remembrance — one that feels timeless, intentional, and uniquely you.

End-of-life playlists remind us that even after silence, the music continues. And through every song, your story will play on.