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Autumn signals a time of transformation. Leaves turn from green to gold and rust, evenings become cooler, and daylight gradually fades. For those dealing with loss, the shift from summer to autumn can be a poignant reminder of change. Setting intentions at the start of the season provides a way to anchor one’s grief journey and weave remembrance into daily life. This article explores the symbolism of autumn, how to set meaningful intentions, and ways to honor loved ones as days grow shorter.
The symbolism of autumn in grief
Nature’s cycles mirror our own cycles of life, death, and renewal. Falling leaves symbolize release—letting go of the past to make space for new growth. Cooler temperatures encourage us to slow down, turn inward, and reflect. For mourners, autumn can evoke nostalgia and stir memories of shared holidays, outdoor adventures, or simple moments spent in golden light. Recognizing these associations allows us to lean into them rather than resist. Instead of feeling ambushed by seasonal triggers, acknowledge that this is a time of change and intentional transition.
Creating a ritual of intention-setting
Intentions differ from resolutions. They aren’t rigid goals with specific outcomes but gentle declarations of how you hope to move through your grief. Begin by carving out quiet time on the first day of October. Light a candle, brew a warm cup of tea, or sit outside under a tree. Write down what you’re carrying—emotions, memories, physical sensations—and notice any seasonal associations. Then reflect on what you need this autumn. Do you need permission to rest? Courage to attend a holiday gathering? Clarity about your grief triggers? Write a short statement that captures your intention, such as “I intend to honor my loved one by sharing stories with family” or “I intend to carve out space for my grief, without judgement.”
Incorporating nature into your intentions
Autumn’s sensory richness offers countless ways to connect with your loved one. Take a walk in a park and collect a leaf that reminds you of them. Place it on your desk or altar and use it as a visual reminder of your intention. If you have access to a yard or community garden, plant bulbs in honor of your loved one. These will lie dormant through the winter and bloom in spring, symbolizing the ongoing cycle of life. If mobility is limited, bring nature indoors by displaying autumn flowers, branches, or small pumpkins. Combine your intention-setting ritual with these natural elements: write your intention on a paper leaf and hang it on a wreath, or carve it into a pumpkin and light it on your porch.
Honoring their presence in seasonal activities
Many autumn traditions can become memorial practices. When baking apple pies or pumpkin bread, set aside a slice as an offering to your loved one. If you go apple picking, dedicate your first pick to them. During Halloween, carve a pumpkin with their initials or a symbol that represents them. For those who observe Thanksgiving, set an extra place at the table or light a candle before the meal. Integrate their favorite autumn activities—maybe they loved football games, hayrides, or harvest festivals—into your schedule and invite friends or family to join you in honoring those memories.
Integrating mindfulness and gratitude
Setting intentions works best when combined with ongoing mindfulness. Each morning, revisit your intention and ask yourself: how can I live this today? Keep a journal where you record small moments of remembrance or healing. For example, note the comfort of a warm scarf, the beauty of a crisp morning, or the tear that falls unbidden while watching leaves drift. When grief feels overwhelming, return to your intention like a compass. At the end of each week, note what felt helpful and what didn’t, and adjust your practices accordingly. Gratitude can coexist with grief; noticing what you’re thankful for doesn’t diminish your loss. Instead, it expands your capacity to hold multiple emotions simultaneously.
Sharing intentions with supportive communities
If you belong to a grief support group, religious community, or online forum, consider sharing your autumn intention. Communal witnessing can validate your experience and inspire others to set their own intentions. Invite family members to contribute their own statements and create a collective intention collage. On social media, write about how you’re honoring your loved one this autumn and invite friends to share memories. These actions create a web of support that can carry you through the season.
Looking forward with gentle expectation
As autumn progresses, your relationship with your intention will evolve. Some days you may feel aligned and comforted; other days your intention may feel distant. Both are natural. Trust that the act of setting an intention plants a seed of healing that will continue to grow, even if you can’t see immediate results. As you reach the end of October and begin to think about winter, revisit your intention and reflect on what has shifted. Perhaps you’ve discovered a new tradition, a deeper connection to nature, or simply learned to sit with your grief. Celebrate these small victories and remind yourself that healing is a non-linear journey.
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What are the shipping options for my memorial?
Oaktree offers free nationwide shipping on all urns and cremation jewelry items, with delivery typically taking 2-5 business days, including processing time. Need it sooner? Expedited shipping (overnight or 2-day) is available at checkout for an additional cost, and we will also prioritize processing for faster delivery. If you need international shipping, please contact us first to confirm availability and rates.
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Can I return my urn or cremation necklace? What is your return policy?
Oaktree offers a 100-day return and exchange policy for non-engraved items. Due to personalization, engraved urns are final sale and cannot be returned. For full details on how to start a return or exchange, visit our Returns & Exchanges page.
How do I make changes to an urn I’ve already ordered?
If you need to modify an order, contact us as soon as possible. If your urn is already engraved, we may not be able to make changes, but we’ll do our best to accommodate your request before processing.
How are your urns made? Where do the materials come from?
Oaktree’s urns are handcrafted in the USA and Europe using sustainable, locally sourced materials. Our artisans ensure each piece is beautifully designed and built to honor your loved one’s memory with care.
How do I choose the right urn size?
Each product page includes detailed dimensions, weight capacity, and cubic inches to help you select the right urn. As a general guide, 1 cubic inch holds 1 pound of pre-cremation weight. If you need help choosing, feel free to contact us.
Some urns are marked as “sold out.” When will they be available?
Our handmade urns may take a few weeks to restock. If you’re interested in a specific style, contact us for an estimated restock date, and we’ll notify you when it’s available.
Does Oaktree place the ashes into my urn?
Yes, we offer an optional ash transfer service for an additional fee. If you’d like us to handle this process, please contact us when placing your order. You’ll need to mail the ashes to us, and we’ll carefully transfer them into your selected urn.
How do I transfer ashes into my urn?
Cremated remains typically arrive in a sealed plastic bag inside a plastic container. To transfer them, simply place the sealed bag inside your urn. If needed, use a funnel for precise placement. If you have any concerns, our team is happy to assist.
How do I order an engraved urn?
To personalize your urn, select “Yes” under “Would you like your item engraved?” on the product page. If you’d like a custom design beyond standard engraving, contact us and we’ll explore options to create a unique tribute.
Can my urn be shipped directly to a funeral home?
Yes! During checkout, you can enter the funeral home’s address for direct shipping.
Can I customize my urn beyond engraving?
Yes! In addition to engraving, we offer custom design services, including unique finishes, symbols, or artwork. If you’d like to personalize your urn beyond standard options, contact us to discuss customization possibilities.
What materials are Oaktree urns made from?
Our urns are crafted from premium materials such as wood, ceramic, marble, metal, and biodegradable materials. We focus on sustainable sourcing and high-quality craftsmanship to create lasting memorials.
Do you offer keepsake urns or mini urns?
Yes, we offer keepsake urns and mini urns, which are smaller versions designed for sharing ashes among family members or keeping a small portion as a personal tribute.
Can I pre-order an urn for future use?
Absolutely! Many customers choose to pre-order an urn in advance. This ensures availability and allows for customization without time constraints. Contact us to arrange a pre-order.
Do you offer pet urns?
Yes, we provide a range of pet memorial urns designed to honor beloved pets. These are available in different materials and sizes to suit dogs, cats, and other pets.
How do I clean and maintain my urn?
Urns require gentle care to maintain their beauty. Use a soft cloth and mild cleaner for metal or ceramic urns. Avoid direct sunlight and moisture to preserve wood urns. Contact us for specific care instructions based on your urn’s material.
Can I travel with an urn? Are they TSA-approved?
Most Oaktree urns are TSA-compliant, making them safe for air travel. Choose a non-metal urn to ensure easy screening. We recommend carrying the urn in your carry-on bag and bringing the cremation certificate from the funeral home.
How do I track my order?
Once your order ships, we’ll send you a tracking number via email. You can use this to monitor the shipment status. If you don’t receive tracking details, contact us for assistance.
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